When I knew the answers Was when I desperately searched for a second opinion When I had an opinion Was when I asked everyone else for permission to validate it …

We Can’t Be Creative In Survival Mode
Below is a snippet from an email I sent to my list a week ago: I have a confession to make. I’m very tired. I’m tired of trying to be …

Meet (not Find) Yourself: 3 Stages of Self-Discovery
Have you ever worked hard to get what you thought you wanted, whether that’s a quote “dream” job, a relationship, or the perfect body, only to realize you still weren’t …

What Does Surrender Or “Letting Go” Actually Mean?
I used to be very uneasy with the concept of “surrender” or “letting go.” Because I’m someone who hates feeling out of control, and “surrender” sounded too much like “submission,” …

I Turned My Addiction To Self-Help Books Into A Game!
When I was little, my parents would stock up the house with lots of snacks. When I got even a little peckish, bored, or simply noticed a snack, I’d scarf …

The Art of Rapid Disambiguation
I gave my first talk at Seattle’s Code Writers Workshop this past Friday titled The Art of Rapid Disambiguation, i.e., how to learn and do unfamiliar shit while under time pressure. …